Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby
October 10, 2006
Would you be worried
if your boyfriend though sperm came from bone marrow?
Mine does. Of course
I laughed, so hard that cola came out of my nose. But then, it made me think.
There is NO
sex education in North Cyprus. The kids don’t get taught about their own bodies; let alone
what they can do with other peoples. When a girl first gets her period, many times she doesn’t know what it is, and
thinks she has some terrible disease. When she musters up the courage to tell her mother, she gets a slap round her face for
her troubles (a Cypriot tradition, said to keep the cheeks rosy). Imagine how terrifying this is.
The teenage generation
here are having sex left, right and centre. But everyone is pretending is doesn’t happen, as ‘clean family girls’
do not do this. So they choose to close their eyes, keep these children in the dark about contraceptive options and effectively
condemn them to living in ignorance.
The teen pregnancy
rate in this country is horrific, and yet brilliantly covered up. And let me tell you something else – 87% of these
pregnancies end in abortion. It’s terrible, isn’t it? To think of the sheer amount of these underage girls who
truly believe that you can’t get pregnant on your first time, or standing up, or if you jump up and down afterwards!
Their sole source
of education on this subject is old wives tales and scare stories. There is a saying in Cyprus; if you’ve had a good orgasm you’re
said to have “cum right down to your bone marrow”. Obviously this is why my poor boyfriend thinks this is where
sperm comes from.
Aside from teenage
pregnancy and strange beliefs, there is another frightening side effect of not having sex education – an astounding
lack of knowledge about sexually transmitted diseases. Over 80% of sexually active Turkish Cypriot boys and men DO NOT USE
CONDOMS. These are people that think you can catch diseases from toilet seats, and yet do not protect themselves in the most
intimate act of all.
that AIDS is not rampant in Cyprus, but I can tell you the stage is set for it. Possibly the only reason it isn’t a widespread danger is the
fact that prostitution is legal here, and the brothels health codes are strictly regulated. It is not uncommon here for men
to visit brothels, even if they are married or in a serious relationship.
That isn’t to
say it’s accepted, but it happens and everyone knows. It’s almost part of the culture here, but surprisingly enough,
this isn’t to blame for the spread of sexually transmitted diseases because the use of condoms is required by law in
Disease is spread
through promiscuous young men and uneducated young women. If sex education were to be taught at school, just once a year,
imagine how much pain this would save.
however, prefer to bury their heads in the sand and pretend that their children are not sexually active. It is only when they
are faced with the stark reality of abortion, disease and infertility that they may wish they had educated their children.